Do I believe in “love at first sight?” Hmm, if it is a horse or an antique tractor, a newborn baby or a rainbow over a barn-yes. If it is two people, I don’t know. Attraction is powerful, but to love someone I think you have to know them. You have to learn about what brings them joy, sorrow, laughter, hurt, anger and happiness. You have to understand their dreams and goals and you have to encourage them to work to those goals and dreams.

You have to have time to be together and appreciate the good, the bad and the mundane, and let the love deepen. You have to be willing to share your lives, to put that person first sometimes, be flexible, love them even in the midst of wanting to throttle them.

You have to help them remember who they are and where they were heading and to give them their own time too. This all takes time and commitment and so, love at first sight? I think not. Loving another brings the best and the worst of you out. It is so difficult at times and yet it is good and fills you with great joy.